tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984317470266050424.post1154779238275472910..comments2024-03-03T17:50:27.025-05:00Comments on Gay Influence: Andrew Goldstein: Ivy League & Pro LacrosseTerryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18219632588063153768noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-984317470266050424.post-23021224239524857302021-04-15T02:27:15.795-04:002021-04-15T02:27:15.795-04:00NO COMMENTS...come on man, seems like some still a...NO COMMENTS...come on man, seems like some still are uncomfortable praising a ”GAHY” guy. But, as I tell my gay bros (hardly any of them agreeing with me), there is a huge difference between guyz saying that’s so “ghay” and guyz saying gay in the negative (ie: fag)... for reference look it up in the Urban Dictionary.<br /><br />On an academic level, I had the exact experience as Andrew.. For me, It got to the point that I was “over” being called or looked at a “queer” (now a compliment) and I saw my chance; it was 1973. <br />I had joined the first gay organization in the Midwest (Gay Peoples Union), in Kansas City of all places, at a time when “Ma Bell” outright refused to list the organization in the phone book, even if we just use GPU as nomenclature. <br /><br />My chance?, at a Jesuit College an enlightened female professor (Ivy League graduate to boot) was teaching a class called “Myth of Sex & Race;” what a chance right? So I told the professor I knew of a homosexual group (“gay” was not that much in use):that met at UMKC and asked if I could “invite” them to a class, immediately she said yes....<br />then, as the GPU sat down in front of the class, I got up and JOINED THEM.<br />Just like Andrew I thought “oh here I go;” there was still that semester plus the next in which I would have to study at the College. <br />My Catholic brother & sister classmates reaction shocked not just me, but my bros in the GPU; they were “ready” for the negativity from College students, Catholic College students !<br /><br />Man, I was told by most how engaging that particular class was plus, as it spread like the proverbial burning bush around campus, students changed toward me in a positive way, including quite a few closeted guyz who admired my unabashed bravery. <br /> Like Andrew, girls became over comfortable with me (I had to pull back typical male “urges” with them...ha!) and in addition, a gal I dated in freshman year was like all “why didn’t you tell me.” She actually said she was relieved because she thought that either I was uber-religious or that she might not be attractive... hardly that, she was ( in ‘73 terms) a babe.<br /><br />I talk here about my experience from 1973 to link it with Andrew’s experience in the 2000’s; gay can STILL be an issue. But, I comment thus because the fact that it can still be an issue is all the more more reason to hopefully boost or encourage others to be brave...as Andrew said, it ain’t suppose to be EASY.<br /><br />So, take a look at him run the entire length of the field to score the first goal by a goalie in 30 years (!) at the NCAA. DUDES (including gals) the metaphor of a full run down the entire field does not by any means refer just to sports...that’s what a metaphor means.<br /><br />It ain’t easy but it beats the closet or, the gods forbid, suicide...all will be well. Chazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17763915180698022855noreply@blogger.com